What I'm Dating

Chet Porter published an article a while ago, the "5 Inanimate Objects You Date in College"
  He lists the five following things: 1. Homework 2.  Fast Food 3. Your Computer 4. Alcohol 5. Netflix   Which I totally agree with...  If I didn't live at home, I would probably have eaten a lot more fast food this past year.  Which I totally don't need.    I would add my bed though.  I have a pretty close relationship with it.  I tend to do a lot of my homework here, writing, thinking, even eating and drinking. Sadly that is an accurate description of my life.     Sad, but true. 

Thought Catalog

 I found this lovely article on Thought Catalog.  I liked reading  it.  I am a tea person.  I enjoyed reading it, and I hope you do as well!

Tea People Vs Coffee People

Feb. 26, 2013

By Chelsea Fagan 

 

 

Because there is no such thing as middle ground. You are either decidedly one or the other, and if you hang on the fence to avoid the revolution, you will be cast into the pits of rabid dogs along with those heathens, the Hot Cocoa People.

Where You Are Most Comfortable

Tea People: You are into all things knit and cozy. Your ideal setting is curled up next to a window during inclement weather, inside some sort of makeshift fortress made entirely out of blankets you purchased on Etsy. You are all about the journaling, the feelings, and the way a nice cup of Earl Grey adds a distinct tinge of refinement to even the most frat boy-esque activities. As long as you are somewhere which is highly Instagrammable, there is no limit to the amount of time you can spend in the fetal position.
Coffee People: There is but one word for you: Cafés. You’re just chomping at the bit to get yourself over to an unnamed city in Europe where you can sit for hours on end, watching people walk by in their terrible tourist clothes, leaving strategic coffee stains on the pages of A Moveable Feast. You will always have a soft spot for the tiny little spoons they serve with the espresso (it thinks it’s real cutlery!), and you don’t even notice the brown tooth stains anymore.

Your Dream Partner

Tea People: Let’s not mince words here: You want someone British. Culturally speaking, you’re not straying too far from your drink of choice, and would be happy for a little Benedict Cumberbatch spread over a crumpet around four in the afternoon. You’re all about the cardigans, the charmingly befuddled mannerisms, and the accents. Always the accents.
Coffee People: I’m picturing an Italian dude that chain smokes and refuses to call you back, yet always shows up at inopportune moments and makes passionate love to you in your cramped European apartment. I would say his name is Paolo, but it could very well be Gianni.

Your Social Life

Tea People: Few things are more overrated for you than having an active social life. You see all the people who are constantly going out to these parties and bars and Roman orgies and you’re like “Really? Haven’t they heard of Dr. Who?” You’re not really trying to get crazy and social, you’re more about curling up with your aforementioned blankets and hanging out with your myriad feelings. Also, if you do end up getting dragged to a house party, you are most likely going to be found in the corner, hanging out with the family pet and trying to talk to it.
Coffee People: You are a fully charged battery, prepared to handle the loud noises and activity of the daily grind. You’re completely comfortable in a boisterous coffee shop filled with the sound of coffee beans grinding/morning people chattering, and you’re even capable of engaging in socializing with a barista if the opportunity for small talk arises. When night falls, you are looking for the cool local chef who was this close to getting a spot on the Food Network and having a tasting in between shots of fair-trade espresso. You’ve got shit to do.

Your Professional Life

Tea People: When people ask you what you’re planning on doing with your life, you generally curl up into a small ball à la Roly Poly and cry softly to yourself. You have way too many books you plan on reading — and Tumblr posts you plan on reblogging — to consider things in terms of “career.” You are not really upwardly mobile, professionally speaking, but that’s okay. You’re just figuring things out. You’ll get to it. It will be fine.
Coffee People: You are all about stabbing your coworker in the back to get one sweet, sweet rung up that corporate ladder. You have not yet encountered a meeting you wouldn’t attend fifteen minutes early to set up coffee and donuts for everyone. As long as you’ve had your morning cup, you’re good to conquer the world. If you don’t get it, however, you’re most likely to tear a coworker’s esophagus out on the way to your cubicle for breathing too much in your general direction.

Your Future

Tea People: Basically becoming some extra from Harry Potter who reads tea leaves and tells every other person that they’re going to die within the week.
Coffee People: Switching to tea because, if you don’t, you’re going to have a heart attack by age 35. All of us succumb to the “tea people” lifestyle, it’s just a matter of time.
     

Is this Person a Bad Friend?

As some of you might know, I love Thought Catalog .  Looking at the latest thoughts, I came across this thought: 6 Ways to Figure Out if Someone is a Bad Friend   I have been considering if I wanted to remain friends with some of my friends I had made in high school.  I came across an article at an ideal time in my life.  It makes it a bit more obvious as to if I should remain friend with them.     1. You are constantly making stupid decisions when you are with your friend.   There are some friendships where you need to make stupid decisions.  Or at least once make a stupid decision together, because it's fun.  It makes a good story.  It's just crazy. You need to make some bad choices.  You need to make a mess.  I like the quote, "the bigger the mess, the more fun was had."  Sometimes life just needs to be messy to be fun. 
 2. You are always expected to put your life on hold for your friend. Whenever my friend wants to do something, it is inexcusable that I have something going on.  This is even when I  am often the one who asks to do things, or offers to make plans or arrange things.  she always talks about how she is too busy to hang out with any of us, or me.  Then I hear about how she always hangs out with her boyfriend.  Which is fine and all.  But don't say you have no time when  you're just not interested in hanging out.  That is a very different thing than being busy.    And if she needs something, she expects you to be there for her.  But a prime example  her not returning the favor is when my dad had cancer. 
3. But your friend is never there for you Ha!  she was never there for me.  My dad had a very rare cancer, only about 150  a year get this type of cancer.  Not to mention the area where it was is just a rare place to get it.  Luckily we live in a location where there are a bunch of doctors who are amazing.  But honestly.  To never be there.  To never ask how he is doing.  To never ask if I was ok.  That just isn't how a friend should act.  My friends (and sorority sisters)  while they were 10 times the distance away. They were able to help me out.  They were there asking if I was ok.  And even though they weren't able to physically be there, they got me an animal from biuld-a-bear.  Which is corny.  But I love it.  They made it for me.  It's the thought that counts. Also, When i  had something big happen to me, that was very negative, I was unable to to talk about it.  And That was what initially made me never trust them. 
4. There's an unhealthy competition between you. She likes to brag about how cheap she is and how much money she saves.  it's annoying and no one cares.  She goes on and on about how  much she doesn't care and how cheap she is. But no one cares.  She just goes on and o n .  And she talks about her life like it's so complicated and  hard.  She CHOSE to be a teacher.  she doesn't like the paycheck.  She isn't a huge fan of some of her kids.  She doesn't like the living situation.  But that is all she can live off of. Because she chose this life.  She always feels the need to say how tough her life is.  How hard she has to work for her life.  And such things. How she has to get up early, and can't do anything. 
5. Their advice seems suspect. her advice is based upon what is best for her.  And what's the cheapest.  That shouldn't be how you decide what your advice should be based upon.  If someone asks me for advice, you should say what would be best.  Not what is best for her. 
6. You make excuses for all the shitty things your friend does to you.   I am done making excuses for her. She's a shitty friend to me, and I don't deserve this. I deserve much better.
Well.  It looks like I just talked myself out of friendship.  But was this truly a friendship?

Why I Do Not Hook Up - Thought Catalog

  Once again, A wonderful thought catalog article that I relate to.  I like What this Gentleman has to say.    Why I Reject the idea of Hooking Up.

School.... It is sucking my soul.....

Hey There!   I wish I could  be blogging more, I really do.  Unfortunately school is an evil soul sucking bitch.  :(     I did take a thought catalog 'break'  and was reading some articles when I  just woke up.  I was reading 30 Greatest Quotes About Women, and here are some quotes that I like:  

Women are made to be loved, not understood.   -Oscar Wilde

Being a woman is a terribly difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men. 

-Joseph Conrad

I like intelligent women. When you go out, it shouldn’t be a staring contest.  

-Frank Sinatra

...Good ol' Frankie.  Us smart girls are good things.:)

Women must tell men always that they are the strong ones. They are the big, the strong, the wonderful. In truth, women are the strong ones. It is just my opinion, I am not a professor.  

-Coco Chanel

Preach it Coco!

There are only two types of women — goddesses and doormats.  

-Pablo Picasso

Always be a Goddess. Never anyone's doormat.

Road Trip!

Ha.  I wish  I was going on one!   Some of my family is going to Baltimore, then Washington D.C.  Super jealous.  Though not of the road trip part - I kind of have an excellent case of motion sickness.   BUT - If you are planning on going a road trip soon, I read this article on Thought Catalog called, '9 Ways to Guarantee Your Road Trip Won't Suck'. I hope this makes your road trip a little more enjoyable!

Mean Girl's Quotes

If you're like me, then you LOVE Mean Girls

of which, did you know it came out in 2004?  whoa.  Time flies.   But  A marvelous collection of the top 40 Mean Girls' quotes can be found here on this page! Additionally, here is the 10 best ones to use on a day to day basis! Of Which, When I visited my friends in Dayton a couple weekends ago, I helped volunteer at this thing my sorority was doing as a group.  I was giving advice and talking to people when Holly exclaimed that:

Which was so true.  And hilariously accurate.  Perfect usage of that phrase.  And that phrase was continuously used for the rest of the weekend.   May your day be happier!

A List of [Some of] My Insecurities

I am an avid Thought Catalog reader.  and when I read this post it inspired me to do my own list of insecurities.  Maybe it will help you realize that you are not insane... or helps justify that you are insane.  ;)  depends upon your viewpoint of me I suppose.  Here we go!!

• Am I being awkward?
• Is what I am doing considered normal?
• Will I even pass this class?
• Does anyone want me
• Why are my teeth so yellow now.  
• Am I too clingy
• Why does my body grow so much hair that I do not want.  Could it just stop growing once I remove it?  That would be  so very nice.  I am so tired of removing the same hair in the same area's over and over again.
• Why are my hands so sweaty.  Other people's hands are not so sweaty. Why are mine. 
• Can everyone see how much acne is on my face? 
• Do people think they are my friend or am I just wrong. 
• My eyebrows are shaped weird. Will anyone notice
• Why can I not cut my bangs straight...
• While watching Desperate Housewives, is it weird that when the plumber died that that made me super upset about my grandma dying?  Is it so very weird. I suppose not. I hope not.
• How can I loose weight better
• Why can't I just be happy
• Why are other people not safe drivers?  Are they going to crash into me?  Can you please just stay in your lane.... don't come over here...
• Will I ever truly be independent
• Why do boys not like me? Am I really so unattractive
• Do I annoy people with how passionate I am
• Do other people carry their phone's all the time.
• Why cant I smile normal
• Am I too Bitchy?
• Why do my boobs look so weird.  Why can't they be the same.
• Assuming the worst every time something happens... is this normal/
• Does everyone else feel like a fraud and a failure?
•  Why when something bad happens between me and another person do I assume it's my fault. 
• Why are my bangs so greasy
• is my hair three times the size it normally is?  oh goodness.  How do I make it smaller...
• does everyone else notice how my nail polish is chipped?
• Do I watch too much TV? is that possible? 
• Does my best friend think I am his best friend?  or does he think that I am just super clingy.

Curious as to How Depression Feels?

An Anonymous writer on Thought Catalog wrote a lovely article about what it feels life.  Here is a link to it. 

I would recommend reading it.  Especially if you struggle to understand it about someone else. Or describing it to others.